When Brodyn was first diagnosed with Autism I would hear all the time that he didn’t look like he had Autism or that he didn’t act like he did. He was only two and it didn’t stand out as much because he wasn’t really behind on a ton except language so people didn’t stop to stare or ask questions.
But not he is four and still unable to talk. When we go out to kid play areas or to stores he gets in his own world and will stim not stop while we are out. His stimming is him running around laughing and saying “eeeeee.” It makes people stare and look at him and then us. Most of the time I think people are just wondering if they can figure out if he is different or not. He doesn’t do things that bother other people or in an inappropriate place but his stimming shows others that he is special!!
Well for the first time ever we were out at a play place here and Brodyn was having a wonderful time with his brother and some of the kids actually 🙂 And a lady who was there with her two year old son and husband, came over to me so soft spoken and stumbled through asking me about Brodyn. She asked if he was on the spectrum and quickly continued by saying her son was. I told he was and we started talking while the kids played.
I could tell as a fellow mother of a special needs child, that this was VERY hard for her to come and ask me but she is at the beginning stages of the world of Autism and she needed someone to listen, ask questions, and just show some support.
Now many people would find her question rude seeing as she didn’t know us and there was a chance I could have said no or gotten upset. But now a couple years into this world I find her question BRAVE! It was brave of her to reach out and ask me. For herself and her son. But in the early stages I think it is best for the parent to find people going through the same things. I remember crying all the time, worrying nonstop (this one hasn’t hanged much) and also feeling lost.
I didn’t have anyone to talk to daily in person but I did have two amazing no BEYOND AMAZING mommas who let me talk their ears off about anything and everything. To this day I have been taking to one of them for two years and one for a year and a half, and I have NEVER met them in person. But being able to talk to someone who gets it has kept me sane. I am so thankful for those in my life that I can trust to talk to and not feel judged or that they are trying to fix everything or give advice. So if someone needs to talk just listen it’s the best gift of all.